‘Not Tonight, Honey – I’d Rather Read a Book’


“Not tonight honey, I have a headache” has a whole new meaning, according to a new sex study from iVillage, the essential digital brand for women. The study, which coincides with the launch of iVillage’s Pregnancy and Parenting site, http://www.ivillage.com/pregnancy-parenting, reveals that two-thirds of married women admit they would rather be doing something else rather than having sex with their spouses.

Sixty-three percent of married women said they would prefer to catch up on an extra hour of sleep, watch a movie or read a book among other activities than have sex with their spouse. However the study also found that 32% are extremely or very happy with their sex life and about half (45%) responded they were happy or somewhat happy. A mere 16% found that they were not at all happy with their sex lives.

The satisfaction most women feel about their sex lives may be rooted in familiarity. More than eight in ten (81%) women describe their sex life as predictable, based on location (70%), position (67%), time of day (56%), duration (52%) and foreplay (46%), while one in four said they did not.

“The iVillage study shows that not all housewives are desperate – surprisingly they are quite content and fulfilled with their predictable sex lives,” said Liz Zack, Editor, iVillage Pregnancy & Parenting. “Perhaps that’s because sex is not a priority when it comes to personal time. Today’s married women lead such busy lives that they consider rest and relaxation a better self indulgence.”

Husbands don’t fret! You won’t be confined to your side of the bed every night! The study also provides good news with half of women (48%) saying that they indeed married the best sex of their life. However, 62% of women admit they have fantasized about having sex with someone other than their spouse, and one in ten has done so.

Children had an impact on how women felt about their spouses; women who had children were significantly more likely to try something new in bed with their spouse, say they married the best sex of their lives, and claim they had better sex after marriage than those who did not have children.